Creating a manualized cognitive restructuring program that is effective in helping people overcome faulty thinking errors and self defeating behaviors is an art form that few have mastered.
The question is, is it possible to go into the subconscious mind and actually change thoughts? The answer is yes and the secret lies in Dr David Hawken’s book on truth vs falsehoods. The truth has energy that can penetrate the veil of self imposed falsehoods and help people find the truth about themselves. That is, they are many times better than they think they are.
Developing a cognitive restructuring curriculum requires a deep understanding of the truth, otherwise the written words have no penetrating energy. In effect untrue words fall off the page and on the floor. There they die and disintegrate and are forgotten along with millions of other untrue words.
True words can lift people to a higher calibration whereas untrue words can depress. True words contain a higher intelligence that excites energies that resonate at a frequency that people will accept it. It is this cognitive disonance internalization that affects a change in faulty thinking.
For example after 30 years of working with domestic violence victims it is enlightening to sit in class and watch this self actualization process take place. Most abused women see themselves as $2.00 women where the truth is they are really an $8.00 or $10.00 woman.By the 3rd or 4th session of applying true words delivered through a correctly structured cognitive restructuring program, the truth begins to have its affect.
This reprogramming is manifested in their physical, mental and emotional exhilaration. The before and after manifestation for most are remarkable and permanent. However let us remember that cognitive restructuring counseling is an invitation to change, not a force, change is the responsibility of the client.The main reason counseling programs are ineffective is because they aren’t structured properly and they contain little penetrating truth. The reason is that the person(s) who wrote it lacked truth. People can go to psychotherapy for years and not change because the therapist is not aligned with the truth. Whereas the truth can have a permanent impact on people in a matter of hours, the truth is what it is.
By Larry Lloyd, Lifeskills Counselor See www.accilifeskils.com
The single most compelling reason for negative thinking about self and others is self deception and living below 500 on the life scale.The life scale is a Measurement from 0 to1,000 People who live below 500 suffer from self defeating thoughts and behavior. Self deceived critical thinking people see life from the inside the box.
The problem with negative thinking self deceived people is they are not aware they are deceived. They can’t think they are wrong therefore everyone else must be wrong. They are deaf and blind to solutions or self improvement that would take them out of their box and live life above 500. Self deceived negative thinking people who live below 500 are pessimistic, fault finding, critical, detached, angry, controlling, provoking and always justifying their actions. Living with such people is a lose lose situation because being human, people will always have faults that negative people will focus on.
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Most people have the physical skills to succeed, but many lack emotional or cognitive skills. When a person’s self esteem is increased their emotional IQ or EQ and willingness to make life changes also increases.
Cognitive Restructuring has the ability to go deep. It can help people suffering from the following problems.
- Sadness * Phobias * Childhood abuse
- Anxiety * Lack of goals * Criminal values
- Loneliness * Lack of ambition * Broken relationships
- Despair * Lack of hope * Procrastination
- Fear * Illness * Decision making
- Worry * Compulsions * Self betrayal
- Depression * Coping * Hate/vengeance
- Stress * Rejection * Self control
- Anger * Self esteem * Insecurity
- Prison/Jail * Divorce * Lack of empathy
- Suicide * Grieving * Co dependency
- Drug addiction * Peer pressure * Failing grades
- Alcohol addiction * Delinquency * Eating disorders
The first and most important step to overcoming the above problems and the biggest hurdel to self emprovment is self deception. People who live in the box of self deception are always blaming others for their problems. People fail to realize the biggest problem they have in life is themselfes. If you are not happy and succesful It is your fault? The following six steps are a must for self improvment. There are no shortcuts and they must be done in order. The single most effective tool to help people leave the old destructive behaviors is Manulazied Cognitive Restructuring . Cognitive restructirng has the ability to help people overcome faultiy thinking errors and behaviors.By Larry Lloyd ,Lifeskills Counsler See www.accilifeskills.com Self-Awareness
Changing Criminals
One of the main psychological differences between humans and animals is that humans have the ability to be self aware. That is, they can step back from themselves, see and accept their faults and shortcomings. Because of self-awareness, humans have the ability to improve and change their lives.Changing habits, thoughts, values, attitudes and behavior are not easy. For example, if you want to change a hard-core criminal into a good citizen the change would have to come from within. Criminals would have to accept responsibility for their behavior. As long as they stay in denial they can never change.To be successful with criminal offenders, you must first make them self aware. This “making them aware process” is called reality therapy. You can’t force people to change but you can force them to be self-aware. Self-awareness is the first step in changing criminal offenders into good citizens. Observe the following steps necessary to change. There are no shortcuts.
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Automatic
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Want To
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How To
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What To
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Change
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Step #1
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#2
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#3
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#4
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#5
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#6
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AWARENESS
Self-awareness is
the first step in
changing who you
are. You must accept your faults. You can’t change who you are without becoming self-aware. |
DESIRE
If you don’t want To change, you won’t. You have free will and cannot be forced. You have freedom to choose. It is up to you; it is your choice. No desire, no change. |
ATTITUDE
If you are aware of Your faults and want to change you will automatically elevate your attitude has to come from within. It’s your choice. |
SKILL
Self-awareness, Desire and a positive attitude are not enough; you must also develop the skills and knowledge of how to change, wanting to is not enough. |
BEHAVIOR
Master steps 1-4 and you are ready physically to do what is necessary. Do it for 90 days and it will a habit. Do it for a year and it will become part of you. |
SUBCONCIOUS
Once you get a habit Into your subcon-scious, it becomes automatic. You don’t have to think about it any more; you have changed. Great! Congratulations. |
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If you keep on doing what you have been doing, you will keep on getting what you have been getting. If you want to change what you have been getting, you must change what you have been doing. The first step in changing what you are is to overcome denial, bad scripting and distorted thinking… This can only be accomplished by the above six-steps to change.